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Heroine Alert: Diane Savino, NY State Senator - Gay Marriage

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:13:59 -0500

Heroine Alert: Diane Savino, NY State Senator - Gay Marriage:

“That’s what we’ve done to marriage in America, where young women are socialized from the time they’re five years old to think of being nothing but a bride. They plan every day what they’ll wear, how they’ll look, the invitations, the whole bit, they don’t spend five minutes thinking about what it means to be a wife. People stand up there before god and man even in Senator Diaz’s church, they swear to love honor and obey, they don’t mean a word of it. So if there’s anything wrong with the sanctity of marriage in America, it comes from those of us who have the privilege and the right and have abused it for decades.”

inmyopinion: Today I met with a Jewish matchmaker for my upcoming dating article. (Quick note: I’m...

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 16:56:17 -0500

inmyopinion:

Today I met with a Jewish matchmaker for my upcoming dating article. (Quick note: I’m not Jewish.) It doesn’t bode well that someone desperate to date in Charlotte has resorted to using non applicable matching services. Soon I’ll be going to AA meetings to break my Diet Coke addiction.

I learned two things from my pseudo matchmaker (she can’t actually match me with anyone apparently as I’m not Jewish): 1) Men almost always request that their match be “slender.” 2) Being in a relationship requires being dependent on another person.

I thought about these things as I munched through my Chick-fil-A lunch combo following our meeting. Slender doesn’t seem to be in the cards for me (See aforementioned Chick-Fil-A.) And being dependent on another person sounds like a recipe for disaster (See Elin Woods.). And I like my pasta-eating, solo-home-owning, self-supporting, working-woman life just fine.

So, I thought, as I enjoyed my fries, maybe I’m meant to be single. It occurs to me however, that I read on one of these dating sites that “paying bills” typically falls to the male in a relationship. That gave me pause. This week I went without heat for three days in freezing temperatures because I’d forgotten to pay my gas bill.

I thought about those cold mornings. Could that have been avoided if there was a Mr. Sarah? I slowly put down the chicken. Maybe my new Jewish matchmaker was on to something. Maybe I should eat lettuce and thereby find someone to keep up with the bills. I might never have to take a shower in 30 degree weather again.

Then it occurred to me that life is short, there are only so many chicken sandwiches to be eaten, and if the heat goes off again, I’m going to need the extra insulation they give.

I’ll find Mr. Sarah next week.

New York Marriage Equality: The Post-Vote Blame Game

Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:57:15 -0500

New York Marriage Equality: The Post-Vote Blame Game :

Here are the eight “no” votes from Democrats on marriage equality in New York state today, along with their email addresses if you’d care to speak your mind. The percentage before their names (thanks to Towleroad commenter Tanner) represents — FYI — their 2008 general election percentages.

53% Aubertine (Upstate) - aubertin@senate.state.ny.us
53% Stachowski (Upstate) - stachows@senate.state.ny.us
58% Addabbo (Queens) - addabbo@senate.state.ny.us
81% Onorato (Queens) - onorato@senate.state.ny.us
93% Diaz (Bronx) - diaz@senate.state.ny.us
93% Kruger (Kings) - kruger@senate.state.ny.us
100% Huntley (Queens) - shuntley@senate.state.ny.us
100% Monserrate (Queens) - monserra@senate.state.ny.us

"[Sen. Diaz] also has two gay brothers, a gay granddaughter and a gay chief counsel, whom he insists..."

Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:35:20 -0500

“[Sen. Diaz] also has two gay brothers, a gay granddaughter and a gay chief counsel, whom he insists he loves and respects. “So how could I be a homophobe?” he says.”

- Nathaniel Frank: Eviscerating Rubén Díaz on Gay Marriage

*Ahem* “I let black people in my house. I’m not a racist.”

(via robot-heart-politics)

Ladies and gentlemen, your eight New York State Senate Democrats who voted against gay marriage.

Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:55:07 -0500

robot-heart-politics:

allthingsalishan:ohhleary:

Because of the backroom deals and back-scratching in committee, virtually nothing fails on the New York State Senate floor. But on a bill to legalize Gay Marriage, supporters asked for a floor vote so their opposition’s ignorance could be documented on the Senate record.

Thanks to that, here are the eight Democrats who do not support fairness and equality, and prefer to stand for bigotry and hatred:

Sen. Joseph Addabbo Jr.
Sen. Darrel Aubertine
Sen. Ruben Diaz, Sr.
Sen. Shirley Huntley
Sen. Carl Kruger
Sen. Hiram Monserrate
Sen. George Onorato
Sen. William Stachowski

You know what’s even more sickening? These aren’t DINOs representing backwoods districts in Upstate New York. Six of these Senators represent districts within New York City’s five boroughs.

I hope you New Yorkers remember this come next election day.